As I sit here to finally write this week’s blog, I recognize my own limitations. This past week has been a blur of school, hospital work, preparing for an Interfaith Dr. Martin Luther King Jr. Service and attacks from people who claim to be friends. I need to take time to rest and yesterday evening and this morning I did just that.
Many people in our world today think that resting is being lazy. They want us to work ourselves to the bone day in and day out. They expect us to be present to them even when we have nothing left to give. However, how can give anything to anyone if your cup is empty?
I am personally working to learn this valuable lesson. For far too long I allowed myself to be run until there was nothing left of me. In the last year, I have learned this simple concept of self-care. I feel better, I am healthier and I am even loosing weight. All because I recognize my limitation and have started setting healthy boundaries.
Yes, there will be some people who insist on breaking through those boundaries. They may even become hateful and vitriolic when I enforce my boundaries. However, as a friend reminded me the other day, what they say about me says more about them then it does about me. And I continue to hold on to that truth.
So let me take a moment today to encourage you to take time for self-care. This may be time to read a book, watch a movie or TV show you like, to take a walk through the forest or park, or maybe even to sleep in and relax all day. Whatever you decide to do, just make it time for you to recharge and focus on you.
This is not selfish or lazy. It is healthy and wise! Even Jesus had to pull away from the crowds to recharge:
Then, because so many people were coming and going that they did not even have a chance to eat, he said to them, “Come with me by yourselves to a quiet place and get some rest.” So they went away by themselves in a boat to a solitary place.Mark 6:31-32. NIV.
Immediately Jesus made the disciples get into the boat and go on ahead of him to the other side, while he dismissed the crowd. After he had dismissed them, he went up on a mountainside by himself to pray. Later that night, he was there alone.Matthew 14:22-23. NIV.
Take time to follow our Christ’s example and recharge. And when you are done, come visit us at Saint Francis and find a radically welcoming and inclusive parish family!